Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 198. Many habits we struggle with are not just about willpower or lack of discipline. Very often, they are part of a shame cycle. This can show up around eating, smoking, drinking, scrolling, procrastinating, or other behaviors we might want to change. The pattern usually goes something like this: …
Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 197. Self image has to do with how we perceive ourselves and how we feel about our appearance. And very often, that inner experience does not match how other people see us at all. Someone might feel deeply ashamed of their nose, their hair, their body, or a specific …
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Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 196. Many people feel confused when they reflect on their upbringing and realize they had loving parents, a relatively safe home, and no obvious attachment wounds. And yet, later in life, they struggle with things like social anxiety, low self esteem, or a persistent sense of not being good …
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Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 195. Work can be stressful under the best of circumstances. And sometimes we are very aware that the environment we work in is genuinely toxic. A client recently asked me, “What’s the point of tapping on this if I already know my workplace is toxic?” It is a fair …
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Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 194. A question I see come up often is whether rumination can be healed, especially when it involves years of replaying painful moments. Many people describe getting stuck in loops of thoughts about past situations where they felt ashamed, powerless, or unable to protect their boundaries. These thoughts can …
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Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 193. These days, there is no shortage of evidence that life can feel unfair, cruel, or unjust. News, social media, and personal conversations constantly remind us of suffering, harm, inequality, and loss. Many people I work with find themselves feeling upset, angry, or helpless about what’s going on in …
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Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 192. Recently, a client shared a phrase she had heard from the poet and activist Andrea Gibson: “Just say yes to the experience you’re having right now.” She was referring to difficult life experiences, like illness or a challenging family situation. But we could easily extend this idea to …
Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 191. From time to time, some of my clients tell me something like: “I have so many memories I could tap on. I really do not want to dig up the past.” This is a very understandable concern. Not everyone wants to revisit specific memories, and in many cases, …
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Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 190. A very common experience that most of us can relate to is having thoughts that make us feel like a bad person. These might be judgmental thoughts, selfish thoughts, or thoughts rooted in envy. For example, a fleeting idea like, “Wouldn’t it be convenient if my parents died …
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Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 189. Another area where EFT tapping can be very useful is in exploring our relationship with money. By that, I mean the thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and behaviors we have around money. This does not mean that “money mindset” alone determines our financial reality. Money is not magic, and tapping …
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