Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 156. EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) is often recognized for its ability to improve performance and enjoyment in areas like work, sports, and personal development. But what about parenting? Parenting is one of the most emotionally demanding roles a person can take on, and just like in other areas of …
Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 155. If you’ve ever started tapping on an issue and noticed that your emotional intensity actually increased before it began to decrease, you’re not alone. This is a common experience, and it makes complete sense once we understand why it happens. Bringing What’s Under the Surface Into Focus In …
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Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 154. EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) can be incredibly powerful when combined with parts work, a therapeutic approach that acknowledges and engages with different aspects of our psyche. In my experience, this combination works best when we allow these parts to simply be as they are—without pushing for content, demanding …
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Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 153. I recently read a great article by EFT practitioner Andy Hunt titled The Road of Fire and Ice. The article uses a powerful metaphor to describe how our nervous system navigates emotional regulation. I’d like to share some key insights from it and expand on how EFT can …
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Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 152. In the past, I’ve shared the analogy of a cup of tea to describe how EFT works best when the emotional charge we focus on is neither too cold nor too hot. If it’s too cold, there isn’t enough activation to create meaningful change, while if it’s too hot, the …
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Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 151. Many of my clients have recently asked me a thoughtful question:“Why does it seem like the tapping works better when I do it with you on certain subjects than when I try to do it alone?” This is such a great question, and if you’ve ever felt this …
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Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 150. One of the foundational principles of EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) is to focus on how we feel about a specific situation or memory in the present moment. The typical EFT setup phrase might sound something like this: “When I think about X (a specific situation or memory), I …
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Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 148. Emotions often carry a message, much like the dashboard lights in a car alert us to important information. Just as a blinking light might tell us to check the oil or refill the gas tank, our emotions are signals trying to convey something important. However, unlike a car’s dashboard, …
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Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 147. EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) is most effective when we focus on something specific—like a mental image, a memory, or a future imagined scenario—and tap while tuning into how we feel in the present moment. But before we jump into tapping, there are three important things to check that …
Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 146. When working through an unpleasant emotional reaction, like the fear of public speaking, it’s common to experience an added layer of self-judgment or frustration about feeling that way in the first place. This “double negative mindset” can compound the original emotion, making it even harder to process and …
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