Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 213. One question that comes up from time to time is whether EFT works better if you tap in your native language. I remember wondering about this myself many years ago. Since then, after working with clients for several years as an EFT practitioner, my answer has become fairly …
Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 212. From time to time, some of my clients tell me they are afraid they might be losing their minds. What is interesting is that these are not people who are psychotic. More often, they are people who are going through a period of intense stress, anxiety, grief, emotional …
Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 211. One challenge that sometimes comes up with EFT is the following: A person gets very emotionally triggered in a social situation, but later, when they are finally home and have the time and privacy to tap on it, they notice they can barely feel anything anymore. This can …
Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 210. In almost any kind of relationship, whether romantic, family, friendship, or work related, it is common for certain dynamics to develop where two people repeatedly trigger each other. One person says or does something that touches a nerve in the other person. The second person reacts in a …
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Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 209. From time to time, I come across a question that sounds something like this: “No matter how much I tap, I feel resistance, like something inside me doesn’t want to let the emotion go”. This is actually more common than you might think. It can feel frustrating to …
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Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 208. Have you ever noticed yourself reacting strongly to something that, on the surface, seems minor? It might be a comment someone made, a mistake you made, a message that felt slightly off, or a small inconvenience during the day. Part of you might recognize that the reaction feels …
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Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 207. In a recent article, I wrote about how helpful it can be to give the microphone to anger while tapping. A similar approach can be applied to sadness. Sadness is often something we try to move away from. We distract ourselves, try to think differently, or look for …
Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 206. Earlier today, I was sharing with a client a way of approaching shame that can sometimes make it a bit more workable. Shame can be a very intense experience. It often shows up after we make a mistake, or when we remember something awkward or cringeworthy that we …
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Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 205. Recently, a client shared something that stayed with me. He told me that one of the things he appreciated about working with me was that I wasn’t asking him to do things he couldn’t actually do. He had experienced something different in other approaches. Being told things like …
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Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 204. One idea that stayed with me from my years studying psychology is the importance of “locating the loss” when we are going through grief. When we think about grief, we often associate it with the death of a loved one. But grief can also arise in many other …
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