Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 171. If you’ve been trying EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) for a while and still feel like you’re not getting the relief others talk about, you’re not alone. It can be incredibly frustrating, especially when you’ve invested hours tapping on a specific memory or issue and it still feels stuck. …
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Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 170. Every once in a while, someone reaches out with a concern that I think many people can relate to, especially when they’re just starting out with EFT: “What if it doesn’t work for me? What if I’m doing my best, but I still feel hopeless and stupid for …
Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 169. When something in our body or mind doesn’t feel right—whether it’s physical pain, chronic tension, insomnia, hair loss, or anxiety—we naturally want it to go away. We want relief. And one of the hopes people often have when trying EFT is: “Will this get rid of my symptom?” …
Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 168. One of the most powerful things we can do with EFT is use it not to “get rid” of our feelings, but to sit with them. That’s why I often encourage my clients to approach tapping with the intention of meeting themselves where they are. As if gently …
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Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 167. Decision-making can feel like a minefield, especially when past choices didn’t turn out the way we hoped. For many of us, the fear isn’t just about making the wrong decision now, but about repeating old mistakes. We might think: “What if I choose wrong again?” “What if I …
Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 166. Sometimes, when life begins to improve—whether emotionally, professionally, or in our relationships—it can feel surprisingly uncomfortable. Instead of relief or joy, we might feel uneasy. An inner voice might whisper: “This won’t last.” “Something bad is going to happen.” “This is too good to be true.” This reaction …
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Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 165. When we’re using EFT to work through a current challenge, it’s often helpful to start by tapping on recent memories or imagined future scenarios related to that issue. That in itself can bring a lot of relief. But sometimes, once the emotional intensity begins to shift—or especially if …
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Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 164. Sometimes EFT works beautifully on our own. A few rounds of tapping can bring a surprising sense of relief, perspective, or calm. But other times, no matter how much we try to resolve something by ourselves, we find we’re going in circles. That’s when working with a practitioner …
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Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 163. Recently, someone asked me a thoughtful question: They shared that they’ve been experimenting with a technique where they simply observe a physical sensation associated with an emotion—without judgment, without trying to change it. Just noticing. And they’ve found that after a while, the sensation tends to fade, and …
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Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 162. Imagine someone breaks their arm. Everyone around them can see the cast, the pain, the limitations. They’re offered help, sympathy, and time to heal. Now imagine someone goes through intense emotional pain—like being bullied, shamed, or rejected during formative years. There’s no cast, no visible sign of injury. …
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