Tapping Through Grief: Addressing the Day of Loss

Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 124.

In previous articles, I’ve explored different aspects of tapping through grief. One was about how we can tap on the natural “waves of grief”, and the other focused on tapping on “positive memories” that bring up sadness (or any other painful emotion) because the person or animal we’ve lost is no longer in our lives. You can find those articles here and here.

In today’s article, I’d like to discuss the importance of eventually tapping on the memory of the day we lost the person, animal, or thing, especially if the loss was somewhat unexpected. This memory might bring up, among other feelings, shock and perhaps even guilt or regret if we feel we could have somehow done something different to prevent that outcome. These memories can sometimes be traumatic and emotionally overwhelming, which is why it might be beneficial to tap on them with the help of a practitioner. However, working on these memories can be a significant step in processing the grief of that loss.

Sometimes, we might need to use Gentle Techniques or even the Tell the Story Technique. For example, we might need to tap on the day our loved one passed away, or if they died of an illness, maybe the day we found out about their diagnosis.

It’s important not to start your grief work with these potentially challenging memories. It can be gentler to begin with recent and future events, such as waking up this morning and missing your loved one. Starting with these less intense memories can help increase your nervous system’s capacity to be with these feelings, making it easier to eventually address the more painful and traumatic memories.

Remember, the goal is not to erase the memory but to reduce the emotional charge associated with it, allowing you to process the grief more effectively.

I’m Bruno Sade, a clinical psychologist and Certified Advanced EFT Practitioner. My approach is compassionate and tailored to your unique experiences and needs.

What do you think about this approach? Have you ever tried tapping on significant memories related to grief? I’d love to hear about your experiences. Your feedback is crucial for shaping our discussions. Please share your thoughts below or reach out to me directly.

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