There’s a term that is used both in EFT as well as in some psychotherapy models (it first came about in Freudian psychoanalysis) called “secondary gains”. It basically means a subconscious reason to hold onto the problem or issue that the person is wanting to resolve, and that acts as an obstacle to its resolution. …
Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 62. There’s a term that is used both in EFT as well as in some psychotherapy models (it first came about in Freudian psychoanalysis) called “secondary gains”. It basically means a subconscious reason to hold onto the problem or issue that the person is wanting to resolve, and that …
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I was just watching a video by Tad Hargrave, from Marketing For Hipppies (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aPKZtbl0Dso) , talking about two of the reasons why people sometimes get stuck. The first reason, he said, is that sometimes we don’t actually know what to do or how to do it. This is quite frequent when we have to do something that …
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Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 61. I was just watching a video by Tad Hargrave, from Marketing For Hipppies (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aPKZtbl0Dso) , talking about two of the reasons why people sometimes get stuck. The first reason, he said, is that sometimes we don’t actually know what to do or how to do it. This is quite frequent …
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As you may know, the standard or default way that EFT is taught is to begin each tapping round by tapping on the side of the hand while saying something along the lines of: “Even though as I think about… I feel… I deeply and completely accept myself”. However, some people don’t resonate with the …
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Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 60. As you may know, the standard or default way that EFT is taught is to begin each tapping round by tapping on the side of the hand while saying something along the lines of: “Even though as I think about… I feel… I deeply and completely accept myself”. …
You might have heard the phrase that “dreams are the royal road to the unconscious mind”. Sigmund Freud was one of the pioneers when it comes to this idea. He claimed that by analyzing the different associations that come up for us when thinking about our dreams, we can find out things about ourselves we …
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Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 59. You might have heard the phrase that “dreams are the royal road to the unconscious mind”. Sigmund Freud was one of the pioneers when it comes to this idea. He claimed that by analyzing the different associations that come up for us when thinking about our dreams, we …
Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 58. It’s normal to sometimes feel that it’s taking too long to just tap on only one memory, especially when you know there are so many other memories you could be working on. Sometimes as you are working on this one memory, and reassessing after each tapping round, you …
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It is true that one of the ways to change how you feel is by noticing and changing your thoughts. For example, if every time something doesn’t go the way you wanted, you start thinking: “I’m such a loser” or “I’m a failure”, those thoughts are going to bring up and/or increase painful emotions. If …
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