Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 154.
EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) can be incredibly powerful when combined with parts work, a therapeutic approach that acknowledges and engages with different aspects of our psyche. In my experience, this combination works best when we allow these parts to simply be as they are—without pushing for content, demanding explanations, or trying to force a shift.
Rather than attempting to “fix” a part of ourselves, the key is to be with it, notice what we notice, and offer a presence of acceptance. When we meet ourselves—and these parts of us—exactly where we are, change happens naturally and organically.
Approaching Parts with EFT
A fundamental way to integrate parts work into EFT is by using setup statements that acknowledge and validate what a particular part is feeling. Instead of trying to extract a reason for its emotions, we simply recognize its presence. For example:
“I notice this part of me, this younger self, is just feeling very sad right now, and this is just where I’m at right now.”
This approach helps create safety for the part, reducing internal resistance and allowing it to express itself without pressure.
Offering Support Without Forcing Change
In EFT, we can also incorporate gentle affirmations of acceptance and support, such as:
“I’d like to say to this part of me that it’s okay to feel what you’re feeling.”
or
“I’d like to give this part of me a hug, and this is where I’m at right now.”
By doing this, we are signaling to these parts that they are not alone, that they don’t need to justify their existence, and that their feelings are welcome. This kind of presence creates a safe space where emotions can be processed naturally, without pressure or force.
Trusting the Process
The magic of combining EFT with parts work lies in our ability to remain open and non-directive. Instead of trying to get a part to “speak” or behave in a certain way, we listen. Instead of trying to make it feel differently, we acknowledge what it is feeling. And instead of rushing the process, we trust that by meeting these parts with compassion and presence, they will shift in their own time.
When all parts of us get on board, we don’t need to shove any part of us away or sweep it under the rug. We can help all parts of us feel better—without resistance, without force, just through gentle presence and acceptance.
By integrating EFT with a gentle, accepting approach to parts work, we create an internal space where healing can happen naturally. The goal is not to push, but to allow. Because when we allow, positive change just happens without resistance.
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I’m Bruno Sade, a clinical psychologist and Certified Advanced EFT Practitioner. Helping you manage emotional reactions and release triggers in a way that feels safe and tailored to your unique needs.
Have you ever tried combining EFT with parts work? What do you think about this approach? Please let me know in the comments below. And if you’d like support in exploring and processing your feelings, feel free to reach out.
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