Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 127.
We’ve all experienced moments of procrastination or resistance when faced with tasks we want to accomplish. Whether it’s writing a book, starting a project, or even tackling daily chores, sometimes we find ourselves stuck. The way to apply EFT in these situations is to notice where in this process there’s an unpleasant emotional charge, and then tap on that. We might have uncomfortable feelings about the actual process of doing the task and/or about the potential consequences of having done the task.
For example, if we are talking about writing a book, we might need to tap on how we feel as we imagine ourselves sitting in front of the computer not knowing what to write, or writing something but then feeling very critical of what we just wrote.
Additionally, we might need to tap on how we feel as we imagine we have already written the book, but nobody reads it. Or it receives negative criticism. Or, on the contrary, the book is a success and now we are seen as an authority on the subject, and it feels like too much pressure that we can’t handle.
Maybe all of those scenarios bring up an unpleasant emotional charge that’s contributing to our procrastination. In that case, we probably need to tap on them one at a time. Notice the one that’s calling your attention the most and start there.
For example, you might use phrases like:
“Even though I feel anxious when I imagine sitting in front of the computer and not knowing what to write, and I feel this anxiety in my chest and my heart is beating faster, this is just where I’m at right now”.
Or,
“Even though I feel embarrassed imagining myself reading a negative review on Amazon that says ‘the author didn’t really know what he was going for, the book could have been a lot shorter’, and I feel this embarrassment all around my face, I accept this is how I feel”.
Sometimes, after doing EFT, once the emotional intensity subsides, we might gain more clarity in terms of what strategies we can apply to make the process easier. In the example above, this might mean breaking down the book-writing process into smaller, more manageable steps. Or we might actually realize we don’t really want to do it, or that the time is not right. In other words, maybe there were good reasons for “our resistance”. Regardless, we now feel more at peace about the whole thing.
By addressing the specific emotional charges associated with procrastination, EFT can help us acknowledge resistance, and approach our tasks with greater ease and confidence.
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I’m Bruno Sade, a clinical psychologist and Certified Advanced EFT Practitioner. My approach is compassionate and tailored to your unique experiences and needs.
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