Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 64.
As an EFT tapping practitioner, I understand that sometimes it can be challenging to know what words to use or how to identify specific events and emotions when trying to tap by ourselves. This is why some people suggest incorporating continuous tapping throughout the day as a simple way to integrate tapping into daily routines (for example, while watching TV). In this article, I’ll share my personal experience with tapping while crying and its potential benefits.
Continuous tapping throughout the day entails tapping on the points without using any words or focusing on anything in particular. Though I’ve tried this approach, I didn’t notice any significant relief, and it mostly left my arms feeling tired.
However, I’ve found that adding continuous tapping to moments when I’m crying (which isn’t very frequent) has worked well for me. Many people find it cathartic to cry occasionally, and it can be a powerful emotional release. By combining silent tapping with crying, the emotional release tends to feel deeper and more profound. So, basically my recommendation is to “proceed as you usually do” when crying, but simply “add tapping to that routine”.
When I say “adding tapping to that routine,” I mean doing so without the intention of quickly dissipating the sadness, grief, or whatever emotion you are feeling. Instead, allow yourself to think and feel as you usually do while crying, but also tap through the points (round after round) without using any words.
In my experience, tapping while crying often leads to relatively quick relief since I’m already “tuned in” to my emotions. After a few minutes, I usually no longer feel sad and instead experience a sense of lightness. Tapping while crying can help release the emotional charge, so that when we return to the issue that initially upset us, it may not affect us in the same way.
To be clear, I’m not suggesting you force yourself to cry. But if you find yourself crying naturally, try tapping through the points for a few minutes without using any words or phrases, while you think what you think and feel what you feel, and observe the outcome. In my personal experience, this is when I usually notice the effects of tapping the most in terms of reducing or releasing an unpleasant emotional charge. If you try this approach, I’d love to hear if you find it helpful as well.
Lastly, as I usually mention, if while doing this you run into a memory that you suspect might be too emotionally intense or traumatic to work on by yourself, or you’d like help implementing these tips, consider enlisting the assistance of a certified practitioner with a mental health background, like myself. The same goes if you find it difficult to keep track of all the different memories and aspects involved. Feel free to contact me, even if it’s just to ask for some free advice or guidance on tapping on your own.
That’s it for today. I hope you enjoyed this article and found it helpful. I’m Bruno Sade, a compassionate and open-minded clinical psychologist from Argentina. I’m also a certified EFT practitioner and love to help people, whether they speak English or Spanish, no longer feel trapped by their negative emotional reactions. I’m always non-judgmental and really flexible with my approach because I want to make sure it fits your needs and respects what’s already working for you. I genuinely honor and respect each client’s experiences, beliefs, religion, race, sexual orientation, and personal background. Using EFT, we can work together to shift negative emotions and triggers into a more balanced and resilient mindset.
And, I’d love to know: Have you ever tried tapping while crying? Do you have any questions or comments about what I wrote? Is there any particular topic you’d like me to write about? I’d love to know in the comments below.