Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 174. Sometimes people worry that using EFT to release difficult emotions might take away the motivation those emotions once gave them. For example, someone might share that breakups used to inspire big life changes—quitting smoking, getting in shape, or pursuing education—but now, after using EFT to ease the emotional …
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Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 173. One of the questions that often comes up—especially for people who are new to tapping—is whether it’s necessary to say the EFT phrases out loud, or if it’s okay to repeat them silently in your head. Traditionally, EFT was taught with the recommendation that you say the phrases …
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Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 172. The fear of making mistakes is one of those emotions that can quietly limit us in more ways than we realize. It can show up in how we work, how we relate to others, and even in how we learn. And for those of us who are therapists, …
Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 171. If you’ve been trying EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) for a while and still feel like you’re not getting the relief others talk about, you’re not alone. It can be incredibly frustrating, especially when you’ve invested hours tapping on a specific memory or issue and it still feels stuck. …
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Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 170. Every once in a while, someone reaches out with a concern that I think many people can relate to, especially when they’re just starting out with EFT: “What if it doesn’t work for me? What if I’m doing my best, but I still feel hopeless and stupid for …
Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 169. When something in our body or mind doesn’t feel right—whether it’s physical pain, chronic tension, insomnia, hair loss, or anxiety—we naturally want it to go away. We want relief. And one of the hopes people often have when trying EFT is: “Will this get rid of my symptom?” …
Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 168. One of the most powerful things we can do with EFT is use it not to “get rid” of our feelings, but to sit with them. That’s why I often encourage my clients to approach tapping with the intention of meeting themselves where they are. As if gently …
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Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 167. Decision-making can feel like a minefield, especially when past choices didn’t turn out the way we hoped. For many of us, the fear isn’t just about making the wrong decision now, but about repeating old mistakes. We might think: “What if I choose wrong again?” “What if I …
Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 166. Sometimes, when life begins to improve—whether emotionally, professionally, or in our relationships—it can feel surprisingly uncomfortable. Instead of relief or joy, we might feel uneasy. An inner voice might whisper: “This won’t last.” “Something bad is going to happen.” “This is too good to be true.” This reaction …
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Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 165. When we’re using EFT to work through a current challenge, it’s often helpful to start by tapping on recent memories or imagined future scenarios related to that issue. That in itself can bring a lot of relief. But sometimes, once the emotional intensity begins to shift—or especially if …
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