Increasing your effectiveness with EFT, part 89.
In today’s article, I’d like to talk about two reasons why it’s important to choose a “specific event” to work on when doing EFT. You might have heard phrases like “for results to be terrific, you need to be specific.” But why?
I believe there are two main reasons:
- First, it helps your mind focus on just one thing, like a manageable bite, to prevent emotional overwhelm from having too many memories flood in all at once.
- Second, it allows you to test your results, either to uncover new aspects that need to be tapped on or to confirm that you’ve indeed reached some resolution.
Let’s use an example. Let’s say you want to work on the issue of “fear of public speaking”. If you were to tap using a phrase like: “Even though I have a fear of public speaking, I accept myself” (which is what we would call “a global phrase”, as opposed to working on a specific event), your mind might start thinking about all of the times when you’ve had this fear, potentially leading to feeling emotionally overwhelmed.
While tapping “globally” might yield some results, without focusing on a specific event, how can you effectively test these results?
And why do we want to test our results? To uncover important aspects that still need to be addressed (so they don’t rear their head later on) and/or to confirm that we have made genuine progress.
If, instead of tapping on “Even though I have this fear of public speaking, I accept this is how I feel”, you focus on a specific event using a phrase like, “Even though I feel afraid thinking about the presentation I have to give at work next Monday, I accept this is how I’m feeling”, it gives you something tangible to test afterward. Having tapped on it, how do you feel when you think about that presentation? Especially when considering some of the potential triggering details (like “the look on my boss’ face as he is watching me”).
This method can help you uncover emotionally charged aspects that still need to be addressed. Also, if you find you’re feeling okay about the situation after tapping, it increases your chances of feeling confident during the actual presentation.
And like I always say: if this seems too difficult to do on your own, consider enlisting the help of a certified practitioner like myself, or anyone else with whom you resonate. A trained professional can guide you through the process and tailor the techniques to fit your unique needs.
And that’s it for today! I’m Bruno Sade, a compassionate, open-minded clinical psychologist, and certified EFT practitioner. My approach is tailored to your individual needs and preferences, always respecting your experiences, beliefs, and background.
What are your thoughts on today’s topic? Feel free to share questions, comments, or suggestions for future topics. You can either leave a comment below or send a private message.