My Approach

A gentle, pressure-free way of working, meeting you exactly where you are

My work is based on a simple idea: emotional change doesn’t happen by trying to think our way out of our feelings or by forcing ourselves to change our behavior through willpower alone.

It happens when the nervous system feels safe enough to soften, process, and reorganize.

That’s the kind of space I aim to create in every session.

Meeting you exactly where you are

We don’t start from where you “should” be.

We start from where you actually are.

I’m very anti-should. I don’t tell you how you should think, feel, or behave, and I approach whatever comes up without judgment. We work with what feels present and relevant for you right now, rather than chasing a predefined outcome or pushing toward a specific goal.

That being said, we can absolutely set specific goals if you want to.

The more we can meet ourselves exactly where we are, the safer, gentler, and more effective EFT tends to be.

Diffusing pressure and allowing things to soften

A big part of my work is diffusing pressure as much as possible, including the pressure to feel better quickly.

One metaphor I often use is what I call “giving the microphone”. In everyday life, we usually try to ignore, suppress, or keep certain thoughts, feelings, or inner parts at bay, even though they still affect us. In a session, we do the opposite. We give them the microphone, not to fix or argue with them, but simply to let them be heard while we tap.

When these parts are allowed to speak and get things off their chest, their intensity often begins to soften, along with the grip they have on us.

No pressure, no forcing

I place a strong emphasis on working gently.

There is no pushing through emotions, no pressure to relive memories, and no expectation that you need to “go deep” for the work to be effective. You don’t have to talk about your trauma to start feeling better. I will never push you to reveal your history or rehash stories from your past.

If something feels overwhelming, we slow down, shift focus, or return to regulation before moving forward.

Safety is the foundation.

Finding the “right temperature”

Another metaphor I often use is that whatever we focus on while we tap, whether it’s a memory, an imagined future scenario, a body sensation, or an emotionally charged thought or belief, is like a cup of tea.

We don’t want it to be too hot or too cold.

If it’s too cold, meaning there’s very little emotional activation, tapping usually won’t hurt, but it may not be very effective in terms of processing. If it’s too hot, meaning the emotional intensity is very high, it can push us outside the window of tolerance into hyperarousal (fight or flight) or hypoarousal (freeze or dissociation).

The goal is to stay in a “not too hot, not too cold” zone. We do that by zooming in or zooming out as needed. Zooming in might mean focusing on a more specific aspect of an experience. Zooming out might mean using fewer words, tapping silently, or shifting attention away from the most intense material.

Your safety and comfort come first

I focus on making EFT sessions feel as comfortable and safe as possible, because people heal when their body feels safe.

I can’t guarantee results, but I can guarantee my care for your process. Your safety and comfort always come first.

Your words, not mine

During tapping, I use your own words as much as possible.

This keeps the process authentic and precise, and often allows parts of you that feel unseen or misunderstood to finally have a voice. Rather than applying generic phrases or affirmations, we stay close to your lived experience.

Psychology-informed EFT and psychoeducation

My background as a clinical psychologist informs how I work with EFT.

It shapes how I track emotional responses, how I understand nervous system regulation, and how I adapt the process moment by moment, rather than following protocols rigidly.

Psychoeducation is also an important part of my work. I help you understand what’s happening in your mind and body, and I teach you tools you can use to support yourself when you feel triggered.

A collaborative and unrushed process

Sessions are a collaboration.

I regularly check in with you, explain what I’m doing and why, and invite your feedback throughout the process. You’re not expected to perform, analyze yourself, or do the work “correctly”. We figure things out together.

Sessions can last up to 90 minutes, which means we don’t need to rush. There’s space to tap, reflect, ask questions, and talk through anything that comes up.

What this approach aims to support

Over time, this way of working often helps people:

• Feel calmer and more regulated in situations that used to trigger strong reactions
• Relate to difficult emotions with less fear or resistance
• Feel less stuck and more flexible in how they respond
• Build trust in their own inner experience
  
• Feel more capable of supporting themselves when challenges arise

Each process is unique, and there are no guaranteed outcomes. What matters most is creating the conditions where change can happen safely.